How Playful Is Your Relationship?

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Is your relationship strong enough to be playful?

Stop thinking and start playing.  Don’t over think it.  Thoughts don’t count as much as actions do. You must be secure in your relationship to be playful. Sadly, some relationships become too serious.  They lose their playfulness and friendship.
Stop waiting to be friends with your partner again. Start being a friend to your partner. Be the one to rebuild it.
Go out on the limb. Take the lead and develop your friendship by having fun again. Some examples include, but are not limited to, the following:
  • write a song together
  • draw together
  • golf lessons
  • skydiving
  • rock climbing
  • snow skiing
  • snowball fight
  • horseback riding
  • body paint
  • tickling
  • cooking
  • play games
  • role play
  • fantasize together
  • couples massage therapy
  • daydream together
  • planning
  • walking
  • learn a foreign language together
  • practice pick up lines with each other at a bar
  • travel
  • laughing
  • joking
  • line dancing
  • stripteasing
  • singing
  • karaoke night
  • dancing
  • Wii party
  • running
  • biking
  • hiking
  • swimming
  • roller skating
  • pillow fighting
  • water balloon fight
  • laser tag
  • day spa
  • give coupons for “happy endings”
  • etc…
  • If you don’t know where to start, you can always check out our bed and breakfast marriage retreat. Just remember, space and time are limited.
    What do you do to be playful in your marriage? Add your suggestions in the comments.


Dr. Dave
Dr. Dave Jenkins, DMin, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist in the Northern Virginia area; retired US Army counselor/medic. He's the founder of Fredericksburg Relationship Center. He's been married to the same woman for more than 30 years and has four children, a daughter-in-law and son-in-law.